2024年2月19日发(作者：房问筠)

divorce and a haircut课件

one text to be learnt

By SCOTT SMALLWOODPublished:December 9,2007 original link

FOR the first time in 13 years, l was sitting in a barber's chair. The

barber. Mike - mid-50s, short. with a heao

of thinning, perfectly groomed hair - turned me to face the mirror

and asked, "So, what are we going to dc today?"

I was so out of practice that l hadn't even anticipated this question. l

hemmed and hawed

Finally he said, "Just clean it up a bit?"“Yeah, that sounds good."

He picked up a comb and started in.

"I haven't been to a barber in a long time(我好长时间没有理发了),"I said."My wife always cuts my hair. But after 13 vears, she's left me.

So l fiqure l need to find a different haircutter."

This, I know, was quite a bombshell to drop on Mike the barber

after 10 seconds in his chair(对于MIKE 这个理

爱师来说它是相当震惊的以致使他在椅子上10秒钟)But he iust

nodded.A minute later he asked"So does

your wife cut hair for a living(那么你的妻子也是以理发来维持生活的)?“Oh, no." | said"Just mine.(只是为我理发)”

I considered telling him everything, unburdening myself to the

barber as though he were a priest and the chair a confessional(我想告诉

他关于我的一切向这个理发师来卸掉自己的重担好像他就是一个牧师椅子就是一个忏悔室的椅子).Ithought I could give him the

CliffsNotes(简短的) version of our relationship: how we met in high

school biology, went off to separate colleges, married at 20, had our first

daughter by 21 and two more by 27. How, before marrying, I converted

to her conservative religion. And how, unable to quell my longstanding

misgivings(无法压制自己长时间的疑问),I made the wrenching(做了一个令人难受的决定)decision a decade later to leave the church.

I knew my move might threaten our marriage, and ultimately l was

right -- it did, but not the way l had

expected. Instead of dividing us, it briefly sent us down the same

path, as my wife soon walked away from the church, too. But in her case

it was a faith that had defined her for 30 vears.(30年生活的定义)

At first, our church-free life seemed full of possibility. Things got

tougher, though, as we tried to find our way without the religious

dictates that had guided us for so long: the importance of marriage to

family(婚姻对家庭的重要性).its sacrifices and requirements(期中所需要的牺牲和要求),the role of children(孩子的角色),the idea

(这种想法)that God wants you to be married(上帝希望你是结婚的)

I don't think we understood how pervasive(多么深入) those

assumptions were in how we thought about our marriage. And they

didn't crumble the next day or week but drifted away(慢慢地飘走了)

over a period of

months. By the time my wife started law school, our marriage - the

thing l always had taken for granted(我认为毫无问题的婚姻)-was

already frayin

2024年2月19日发(作者：房问筠)

divorce and a haircut课件

one text to be learnt

By SCOTT SMALLWOODPublished:December 9,2007 original link

FOR the first time in 13 years, l was sitting in a barber's chair. The

barber. Mike - mid-50s, short. with a heao

of thinning, perfectly groomed hair - turned me to face the mirror

and asked, "So, what are we going to dc today?"

I was so out of practice that l hadn't even anticipated this question. l

hemmed and hawed

Finally he said, "Just clean it up a bit?"“Yeah, that sounds good."

He picked up a comb and started in.

"I haven't been to a barber in a long time(我好长时间没有理发了),"I said."My wife always cuts my hair. But after 13 vears, she's left me.

So l fiqure l need to find a different haircutter."

This, I know, was quite a bombshell to drop on Mike the barber

after 10 seconds in his chair(对于MIKE 这个理

爱师来说它是相当震惊的以致使他在椅子上10秒钟)But he iust

nodded.A minute later he asked"So does

your wife cut hair for a living(那么你的妻子也是以理发来维持生活的)?“Oh, no." | said"Just mine.(只是为我理发)”

I considered telling him everything, unburdening myself to the

barber as though he were a priest and the chair a confessional(我想告诉

他关于我的一切向这个理发师来卸掉自己的重担好像他就是一个牧师椅子就是一个忏悔室的椅子).Ithought I could give him the

CliffsNotes(简短的) version of our relationship: how we met in high

school biology, went off to separate colleges, married at 20, had our first

daughter by 21 and two more by 27. How, before marrying, I converted

to her conservative religion. And how, unable to quell my longstanding

misgivings(无法压制自己长时间的疑问),I made the wrenching(做了一个令人难受的决定)decision a decade later to leave the church.

I knew my move might threaten our marriage, and ultimately l was

right -- it did, but not the way l had

expected. Instead of dividing us, it briefly sent us down the same

path, as my wife soon walked away from the church, too. But in her case

it was a faith that had defined her for 30 vears.(30年生活的定义)

At first, our church-free life seemed full of possibility. Things got

tougher, though, as we tried to find our way without the religious

dictates that had guided us for so long: the importance of marriage to

family(婚姻对家庭的重要性).its sacrifices and requirements(期中所需要的牺牲和要求),the role of children(孩子的角色),the idea

(这种想法)that God wants you to be married(上帝希望你是结婚的)

I don't think we understood how pervasive(多么深入) those

assumptions were in how we thought about our marriage. And they

didn't crumble the next day or week but drifted away(慢慢地飘走了)

over a period of

months. By the time my wife started law school, our marriage - the

thing l always had taken for granted(我认为毫无问题的婚姻)-was

already frayin