2024年3月20日发(作者：全溶溶)
"The main job for the parents is to be there because if they start advising them what to
do, that is when the conflict starts. If you have contacts, by all means use those," she
says. "But a lot of parents get too soft. Put limits on how much money you give them,
ask them to pay rent or contribute to the care of the house or the pets. Carry on life as
normal and don't allow them to abuse your bank account or sap your reserves of
emotional energy."
12 Paying for career consultations, train fares to interviews or books are good things;
being too pushy is not. But while parents should be wary of becoming too soft,
Lindenfield advises them to tread sympathetically after a job setback for a few days or
even weeks—depending on the scale of the knock. After that the son or daughter
needs to be nudged firmly back into the saddle.
13 Boys are more likely to get stuck at home. Lindenfield believes that men are
often better at helping their sons, nephews, or friends' sons than are mothers and
sisters. Men have a different way of handling setbacks than women, she says, so they
need the male presence to talk it through.
14 As for bar work, she is a passionate advocate: It's a great antidote to graduate
apathy. It just depends on how you approach it. Lindenfield, who found her first job as
an aerial photographic assistant through bar work, says it is a great networking
opportunity and certainly more likely to get you a job than lounging in front of the TV.
15 "The same goes for shelf-stacking. You will be spotted if you're good at it. If
you're bright and cheerful and are polite to the customers, you'll soon get moved on.
So think of it as an opportunity; people who are successful in the long run have often
got shelf-stacking stories," she says
The English poet William Cowper (1731–1800) said "Variety's the very spice of life, /
That gives it all its flavour" although he neglected to say where or how we could find it.
But we know he was right. We know we live in a world of variety and difference. We
know that people live various different lives, spend their time in various different ways,
have different jobs, believe in different things, have different opinions, different
customs, and speak different languages. Normally, we don't know the extent of these
differences, yet sometimes when something unusual happens to make us notice,
variety and difference appear more as a threat than an opportunity.
3 Reading books allows us to enjoy and celebrate this variety and difference in
safety, and provides us with an opportunity to grow. To interact with other people's
lives in the peace and quiet of our homes is a privilege which only reading fiction can
afford us. We even understand, however fleetingly, that we have more in common
with other readers of books in other cultures than we might do with the first person we
meet when we step out of our front doors. We learn to look beyond our immediate
surroundings to the horizon and a landscape far away from home.
4 If we ever question the truth of the power of reading books, we should take the
trouble to go to our local library or bookshop, or even, if we're fortunate enough, to the
books on our shelves at home. We should wonder at the striking vistas created by the
titles of novels ranging from the classics to the most recent: The Grapes of Wrath by
John Steinbeck, The Fourth Hand by John Irving, Cancer Ward by Aleksandr
Solzhenitsyn, For Whom the Bell Tolls by Ernest Hemingway, Our Man in Havana by
Graham Greene, The Time Traveller's Wife by Audrey Niffenegger or Salmon Fishing
in the Yemen by Paul Torday. Then we should reflect on the other lives we'll meet
once we begin to read.
5 Every book will have its own language and dialect, its own vocabulary and
grammar. We may not always understand every word or sentence, but whether we're
enchanted or whether we feel excluded, our emotions are nevertheless stimulated.
Other people and other cultures are not always distant because of geography. In a
book we may confront people who live in a different climate, have different religious
beliefs, or come from a different ethnic group. Even our neighbours down the road
may be strangers who we can only meet through books.
23 So this is what the banks do. They set traps which appeal to our vanity and greed
and sometimes to our basic need for survival. And then when we fall into the trap they
shout "Got you! Didn't you realize it was a trap?"
24 And here we are today, caught in the credit crunch, with world economies in free
fall, all because the wicked bankers set us traps which we fell into, attracting us with
endless publicity for loans of money which even they didn't have! It now appears they
were borrowing on their own flashy gold credit cards too.
25 So I have a solution to the credit card trap, and I want all of you to listen to me
very carefully.
26 I want you to lay out all of your credit cards in a line, take a large pair of scissors
and cut them into small pieces. Then put them in an envelope and send them to your
bank, with a letter saying (more or less) "I trusted you and you deceived me. You've
got the whole world into this ridiculous credit card trap, and if I now cut your cards in
half, and take away your potential to tempt money away from honest people like me,
maybe it will be your turn to learn what it's like to run out of cash."
27 As for me, I don't want any more credit cards, no more status symbols, no more
bad feelings about wishing I could show how superior I am to others. I'm not going to
yearn any more for what I cannot afford or cannot have.
2024年3月20日发(作者：全溶溶)
"The main job for the parents is to be there because if they start advising them what to
do, that is when the conflict starts. If you have contacts, by all means use those," she
says. "But a lot of parents get too soft. Put limits on how much money you give them,
ask them to pay rent or contribute to the care of the house or the pets. Carry on life as
normal and don't allow them to abuse your bank account or sap your reserves of
emotional energy."
12 Paying for career consultations, train fares to interviews or books are good things;
being too pushy is not. But while parents should be wary of becoming too soft,
Lindenfield advises them to tread sympathetically after a job setback for a few days or
even weeks—depending on the scale of the knock. After that the son or daughter
needs to be nudged firmly back into the saddle.
13 Boys are more likely to get stuck at home. Lindenfield believes that men are
often better at helping their sons, nephews, or friends' sons than are mothers and
sisters. Men have a different way of handling setbacks than women, she says, so they
need the male presence to talk it through.
14 As for bar work, she is a passionate advocate: It's a great antidote to graduate
apathy. It just depends on how you approach it. Lindenfield, who found her first job as
an aerial photographic assistant through bar work, says it is a great networking
opportunity and certainly more likely to get you a job than lounging in front of the TV.
15 "The same goes for shelf-stacking. You will be spotted if you're good at it. If
you're bright and cheerful and are polite to the customers, you'll soon get moved on.
So think of it as an opportunity; people who are successful in the long run have often
got shelf-stacking stories," she says
The English poet William Cowper (1731–1800) said "Variety's the very spice of life, /
That gives it all its flavour" although he neglected to say where or how we could find it.
But we know he was right. We know we live in a world of variety and difference. We
know that people live various different lives, spend their time in various different ways,
have different jobs, believe in different things, have different opinions, different
customs, and speak different languages. Normally, we don't know the extent of these
differences, yet sometimes when something unusual happens to make us notice,
variety and difference appear more as a threat than an opportunity.
3 Reading books allows us to enjoy and celebrate this variety and difference in
safety, and provides us with an opportunity to grow. To interact with other people's
lives in the peace and quiet of our homes is a privilege which only reading fiction can
afford us. We even understand, however fleetingly, that we have more in common
with other readers of books in other cultures than we might do with the first person we
meet when we step out of our front doors. We learn to look beyond our immediate
surroundings to the horizon and a landscape far away from home.
4 If we ever question the truth of the power of reading books, we should take the
trouble to go to our local library or bookshop, or even, if we're fortunate enough, to the
books on our shelves at home. We should wonder at the striking vistas created by the
titles of novels ranging from the classics to the most recent: The Grapes of Wrath by
John Steinbeck, The Fourth Hand by John Irving, Cancer Ward by Aleksandr
Solzhenitsyn, For Whom the Bell Tolls by Ernest Hemingway, Our Man in Havana by
Graham Greene, The Time Traveller's Wife by Audrey Niffenegger or Salmon Fishing
in the Yemen by Paul Torday. Then we should reflect on the other lives we'll meet
once we begin to read.
5 Every book will have its own language and dialect, its own vocabulary and
grammar. We may not always understand every word or sentence, but whether we're
enchanted or whether we feel excluded, our emotions are nevertheless stimulated.
Other people and other cultures are not always distant because of geography. In a
book we may confront people who live in a different climate, have different religious
beliefs, or come from a different ethnic group. Even our neighbours down the road
may be strangers who we can only meet through books.
23 So this is what the banks do. They set traps which appeal to our vanity and greed
and sometimes to our basic need for survival. And then when we fall into the trap they
shout "Got you! Didn't you realize it was a trap?"
24 And here we are today, caught in the credit crunch, with world economies in free
fall, all because the wicked bankers set us traps which we fell into, attracting us with
endless publicity for loans of money which even they didn't have! It now appears they
were borrowing on their own flashy gold credit cards too.
25 So I have a solution to the credit card trap, and I want all of you to listen to me
very carefully.
26 I want you to lay out all of your credit cards in a line, take a large pair of scissors
and cut them into small pieces. Then put them in an envelope and send them to your
bank, with a letter saying (more or less) "I trusted you and you deceived me. You've
got the whole world into this ridiculous credit card trap, and if I now cut your cards in
half, and take away your potential to tempt money away from honest people like me,
maybe it will be your turn to learn what it's like to run out of cash."
27 As for me, I don't want any more credit cards, no more status symbols, no more
bad feelings about wishing I could show how superior I am to others. I'm not going to
yearn any more for what I cannot afford or cannot have.