2024年3月17日发(作者：接千凝)
最新英语四级模拟资料
Part II Reading Comprehension (Skimming and Scanning) (15 minutes)
Seven Ways to Create a Happy Household
Every family is different, with different personalities, customs, and ways of thinking, talking, and
connecting to one another. There is no one "right" kind of family. But whether parents are strict or
gentle, stormy or calm, home has to be a place of love. encouragement, and acceptance of their
feelings and individuality for kids to feel emotionally safe and secure. It also has to be a source of
don'ts and limits.
Most of us want such an atmosphere to prevail in our homes, but with today's stresses this often
seems harder and harder to achieve. From time to time, it helps to take stock and think about the
changes we could make to improve our home's emotional climate. Here are a few that will.
1. Watch what you say.
How we talk to our children every day is part of the emotional atmosphere we weave. Besides
giving them oppor¬tunities to be open about how they feel, we have to watch what we say and how
we say it.
We often forget how much kids take parental criticisms to heart and how much these affect- their
feelings about themselves. Psychologist Martin Seligman found that when parents consistently blame
kids in exaggerated ways, chil¬dren feel overly guilty and ashamed and withdraw emotionally. Look at
the difference between "Roger, this room is al¬ways a pigsty! You are such a slob!" and "Roger,
your room is a mess today! Before you go out to play, it has to be picked up. "
One way tells Roger he can never do anything right. The other tells him exactly what to do to fix
things so he can be back in his mom's good graces and doesn't suggest he has a permanent character
flaw. For criticism to be construc¬tive for children, we have to cite causes that are specific and
temporary.
Another constructive way to criticize children is to remind them of the impact their actions have
on us. This pro¬motes empathy rather then resentment.
2. Provide order and stability.
A predictable daily framework, clear and consistent rules, and an organized house make kids and
parents more re¬laxed and comfortable, and that means everyone has emotional balance. When
conflicts, tensions, or crises occur, the routine is a reassuring and familiar support, a reliable strand of
our lives that won't change.
Think about your mornings. Do your kids go off to school feeling calm and confident? Or are they
upset and bad-tempered?
What about evenings and bedtime? Do you have angry fights over homework or how much TV
children can watch? A calm bedtime routine is a good remedy for the dark fears when kids are alone in
bed with the lights turned out.
Yet a routine that's too inflexible doesn't make room for kids' individual temperaments,
preferences, and peculiar behaviors.
3. Hold family meetings.
Time together is at such a premium in most households that many families, like the Martins, hold
2024年3月17日发(作者：接千凝)
最新英语四级模拟资料
Part II Reading Comprehension (Skimming and Scanning) (15 minutes)
Seven Ways to Create a Happy Household
Every family is different, with different personalities, customs, and ways of thinking, talking, and
connecting to one another. There is no one "right" kind of family. But whether parents are strict or
gentle, stormy or calm, home has to be a place of love. encouragement, and acceptance of their
feelings and individuality for kids to feel emotionally safe and secure. It also has to be a source of
don'ts and limits.
Most of us want such an atmosphere to prevail in our homes, but with today's stresses this often
seems harder and harder to achieve. From time to time, it helps to take stock and think about the
changes we could make to improve our home's emotional climate. Here are a few that will.
1. Watch what you say.
How we talk to our children every day is part of the emotional atmosphere we weave. Besides
giving them oppor¬tunities to be open about how they feel, we have to watch what we say and how
we say it.
We often forget how much kids take parental criticisms to heart and how much these affect- their
feelings about themselves. Psychologist Martin Seligman found that when parents consistently blame
kids in exaggerated ways, chil¬dren feel overly guilty and ashamed and withdraw emotionally. Look at
the difference between "Roger, this room is al¬ways a pigsty! You are such a slob!" and "Roger,
your room is a mess today! Before you go out to play, it has to be picked up. "
One way tells Roger he can never do anything right. The other tells him exactly what to do to fix
things so he can be back in his mom's good graces and doesn't suggest he has a permanent character
flaw. For criticism to be construc¬tive for children, we have to cite causes that are specific and
temporary.
Another constructive way to criticize children is to remind them of the impact their actions have
on us. This pro¬motes empathy rather then resentment.
2. Provide order and stability.
A predictable daily framework, clear and consistent rules, and an organized house make kids and
parents more re¬laxed and comfortable, and that means everyone has emotional balance. When
conflicts, tensions, or crises occur, the routine is a reassuring and familiar support, a reliable strand of
our lives that won't change.
Think about your mornings. Do your kids go off to school feeling calm and confident? Or are they
upset and bad-tempered?
What about evenings and bedtime? Do you have angry fights over homework or how much TV
children can watch? A calm bedtime routine is a good remedy for the dark fears when kids are alone in
bed with the lights turned out.
Yet a routine that's too inflexible doesn't make room for kids' individual temperaments,
preferences, and peculiar behaviors.
3. Hold family meetings.
Time together is at such a premium in most households that many families, like the Martins, hold